How to Develop Your Good Communication Skills

The ability to communicate effectively is important in relationships, education and work. Here are some

steps and tips to help you develop good communication skills.

Part 1 : Understanding the Basics of Communication Skills

Know what communication really is Communication is the process of transferring signals/messages between

a sender and a receiver through various methods (written words, nonverbal cues, spoken words). It is also the

mechanism we use to establish and modify relationships.

1.1 Have courage to say what you think. Be confident in knowing that you can make worthwhile contributions

conversation. Take time each day to be aware of your opinions and feelings so you can adequately convey

them to others. Individuals who are hesitant to speak because they do not feel their input would be worthwhile

need not fear. What is important or worthwhile to one person may not be to another and may be more so to 

someone else.      

1.2 Practice. Developing advanced communication skills begins with simple interactions. Communication

skills can be practiced every day in settings that range from the social to the professional. New skills take

time to refine, but each time you use your communication skills, you open yourself to opportunities and

future partnerships.

Part 2 : Engaging Your Audience
2.1 Make eye contact. Whether you are speaking or listening, looking into the eyes of the person with whom
you are conversing can make the interaction more successful. Eye contact conveys interest and encourages
your partner to be interested in you in return.
 One technique to help with this is to consciously look into one of
the listener’s eyes and then move to the other eye. Going back and forth between the two makes your eyes
appear to sparkle. Another trick is to imagine a letter “T” on the listener’s face with the crossbar being an
imaginary line across the eye brows and the vertical line coming down the center of the nose. Keep your
eyes scanning that “T” zone.

2.2 Use gestures. These include gestures with your hands and face. Make your whole body talk. Use smaller
gestures for individuals and small groups. The gestures should get larger as the group that one is addressing
increases in size.

 Don’t send mixed messages. Make your words, gestures, facial expressions and tone match. Disciplining
someone while smiling send a mixed message and is therefore ineffective. If you have to deliver a negative
message, make your words, facial expressions, and tone match the message.

2.4  Be aware of what your body is saying. Body language can say so much more than a mouthful of words.
An open stance with arms relaxed at your sides tells anyone around you that you are approachable 
and open
to hearing what they have to say.
Arms crossed and shoulders hunched, on the other hand, suggest disinterest

in conversation or unwillingness to communicate. Often, communication can be stopped before it starts by body

language that tells people you don't want to talk. 
Appropriate posture and an approachable stance can make

even difficult conversations flow more smoothly.
2.5 Manifest constructive attitudes and beliefs. The attitudes you bring to communication will have a huge

impact on the way you compose yourself and interact with others. Choose to be honest
, patient, optimistic,

sincere, respectful, and accepting of others. Be sentitive to other people's feeling, and believe in

others' competence.

2.6 Develop effective listening skills: Not only should one be able to speak effectively, one must listen to

the other person's words and engage in communication on what the other person is speaking about. Avoid

the impulse to listen only for the end of their sentence so that you can blurt out the ideas or memories

your mind while the other person is speaking.

 Part 3 : Using Your Words

3.1 Enunciate your words. Speak clearly and don’t mumble. If people are always asking you to repeat yourself,

try to do a better job of articulating yourself in a better manner.

3.2 Pronounce your words correctly. People will judge your competency through your vocabulary. If you

aren’t sure of how to say a word, don’t use it.

3.3 Use the right words. If you’re not sure of the meaning of a word, don’t use it. Grab a dictionary and start

a daily habit of learning one new word per day. Use it sometime in your conversations during the day.

3.4 low your speech down. People will perceive you as nervous and unsure of yourself if you talk fast.

However, be careful not to slow down to the point where people begin to finish your sentences just to help you



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